UNCONDITIONAL LOVE: FOR KIDS ONLY

I mean, Look at their cute faces! I can guarantee unconditional love and acceptance for kids only? I recently discovered that I can only guarantee good relationships with kids. I am a fantastic mother but frankly speaking, I am very average in other relationships. You see, I have a low level of tolerance for adults’…

It is Okay if You are Alone Forever, Is What I Would Tell My Younger Self, If I Could

Since 2017, I have somehow made leaps and bounds in self-discovery. Growing up, I had a pretty good idea of who I am and I always give people a heads up. But I did not understand myself like this-I am really enjoying growing old! I now know myself a bit better and It crossed my…

One Perquisite of Single Parenting

I dislike that light and tunnels cliche but its true. The perquisite of single parenting is that you will go out of your way by miles and miles to get it right, as much as you can. It’s one of my favorite things about being a single mom and sole caregiver. No comfort zone for…

She Has Courage

I guess you could call it a poem, I don’t know. I really don't. Here: She has courage A gift so special Though, she didn’t do anything to deserve it, she’s grateful for it She has courage She doesn’t have to summon it It’s just right there It’s always there She has courage to want…

How I Told My Son About His Absentee Biological Father and Lived

I cannot tell you how many times in the past 8 years I had hit the internet, searching for knowledge on how to know when to tell a kid about runaway daddies, absentee fathers and/or sperm donors. I googled what the best age to tell kids is, how to tell them, what exactly to say,…

Depressed: why they should be angry at me.

...a deep blue day. So blue, very blue. I can’t forgive myself. I have always fully taken responsibility for my actions especially the mess ups...So this is all my fault, I’m convinced. And I cannot forgive myself for letting this happen. This morning, the car I drive suddenly started smoking- the smoke came from rear…

A broke but a merry happy birthday, still.

Broke but happy. This was my state of mind on my last birthday. It was one of the happiest birthday I can recall. On that day, I wrote: Today is my birthday and I am so freaking happy. I don’t even understand how or why. Anyhow, I am happy to announce that: Obviously, I am…

The Journey Begins

FIRST OF ALL I will start by describing myself as a (Nigerian, single) mother of three (3) terrific boys. This will always be the best part of me- mother. However, in another 5 years, I will/may be leading my bio with other stuff I’m involved with: career, hobbies etc. I mean, I started off as…